Marriage is something that nature ... .. coveted by every normal person, whether male or female who has baligh. And is prescribed by Islam, as a practice the Sunnah of the implement.
Subhaanahu Allah wa Ta'ala created man with a sense of mutual interest to the opposite sex and need each other, so that by the mutual love and love to achieve quiet and offspring in her life. Even marriage is a series of worship to Allah Ta'ala wa Subhaanahu in which there are many virtues and great rewards are achieved by the couple.
Even so, many we find on our brothers and saudarai misjudged tealah a marriage, even among those sekalipun.Langkah do not understand science-based start doing weddings because they want to escape from a problem that was experienced. For example the following cases:
Fulanah is a Muslim, who has studied the science of religion. He has quite severe conflicts with their parents, perhaps with a little knowledge he could in bermuamalah less with their parents, or perhaps because of how fahamnya less experience than Birrul-walidain (Berbakti to both parents-ed). The problem is he will paired with a choice man who thinks his parents disagree about manhaj (understanding). The reason for this is commendable in Islam, but how to approach and how to refuse to parents who mungkinkurang good. Keua urged parents to continue so that he receives appropriate man for her daughter's life partner. Fulanah very confused, let alone her parents began to threaten with a variety of threats. Confusion, he suggested to one of her girlfriends who have married sepengajian. Her friend was also spontaneously suggested that she married a friend of her husband. Fulanah gladly accept the proposal, a million beautiful ... hope. imagine! He will be free from the problems at hand and can become someone's wife to him later ... sefaham can Koran together, can practice the same science. The man who finally felt sorry dimaksudpun after hearing stories about keistiqomahan Fulanah. He thought that more Fulanah need help, though his goal is at stake. Actually he was not ready for marriage, because it was studying new dien even begin to feel delicious studied.
Short story with the permission of Allah finally they get married. Parents who had insisted, allow the sincerity of a father to his daughter, for the good of their children. Marriage took place, witnessed by both parents Fulanah and friends.
At first the couple looked happy. With a thousand dreams and delusion. Fulanah want to establish an Islamic household with a husband who will always guide her and will always be together beside him.
The days continue to run a month-two months ..., they began to find their weaknesses, and start the feeling disappointed in their hearts, hopes and ideals do not match reality. The wife is less aware of the things he had to do, for example when the husband came home from outside the home; she look sober, even impressed wrinkled and unattractive. Maybe she thought her husband a good man who does not need to look at women who look beautiful and attractive. This is just one example and there are many more things that make my husband disappointed. The husband who had never tasted delicious studying, to return majlis busy in science. For him to sit with semajlis friends science more exciting than sitting with my wife that "saturate".
Still less Fulanah science diennya, judging that her husband had abandoned her. Fulanah feel depressed seeing her husband's behavior so. Not sure what to do. He did not have provisions to deal with the science of marriage. Marital conflict ensued. It turned out that conflicts with her parents who had, it felt lighter than the current conflict. If it's like this .... what he wants to do? Divorce ... and returned to their parents? .... wal'iyadzubillah, it's not easy!
Indeed the case in the more we find among Muslims and Muslim women who, without thought and without any preparation in the steps toward marriage. There are even households that problem even worse consequences of marriage without dien based on science, practice and faith. For example there is disobedience which occurs in the household; husband's affair, or vice versa, which makes household became worse mess. Marriage is said to have happiness and peace and to realize the ideals of the beautiful and noble, became vice versa. Finally, families and children who will be the victim of carelessness because of the rush.
It is to get vegas family as aspired every Muslim and Muslim, is not as easy as imagined. It turned out that understanding the science of sufficient dien each party plays an important role to achieve these goals, given the many domestic problems that will arise. Like how to fulfill the rights and obligations of husband and wife, what their duties and how to educate children. How can we prepare if not earlier? This is one lesson for every diwajibkannya Muslims to seek knowledge.
Subhaanahu Allah wa Ta'ala created man with a sense of mutual interest to the opposite sex and need each other, so that by the mutual love and love to achieve quiet and offspring in her life. Even marriage is a series of worship to Allah Ta'ala wa Subhaanahu in which there are many virtues and great rewards are achieved by the couple.
Even so, many we find on our brothers and saudarai misjudged tealah a marriage, even among those sekalipun.Langkah do not understand science-based start doing weddings because they want to escape from a problem that was experienced. For example the following cases:
Fulanah is a Muslim, who has studied the science of religion. He has quite severe conflicts with their parents, perhaps with a little knowledge he could in bermuamalah less with their parents, or perhaps because of how fahamnya less experience than Birrul-walidain (Berbakti to both parents-ed). The problem is he will paired with a choice man who thinks his parents disagree about manhaj (understanding). The reason for this is commendable in Islam, but how to approach and how to refuse to parents who mungkinkurang good. Keua urged parents to continue so that he receives appropriate man for her daughter's life partner. Fulanah very confused, let alone her parents began to threaten with a variety of threats. Confusion, he suggested to one of her girlfriends who have married sepengajian. Her friend was also spontaneously suggested that she married a friend of her husband. Fulanah gladly accept the proposal, a million beautiful ... hope. imagine! He will be free from the problems at hand and can become someone's wife to him later ... sefaham can Koran together, can practice the same science. The man who finally felt sorry dimaksudpun after hearing stories about keistiqomahan Fulanah. He thought that more Fulanah need help, though his goal is at stake. Actually he was not ready for marriage, because it was studying new dien even begin to feel delicious studied.
Short story with the permission of Allah finally they get married. Parents who had insisted, allow the sincerity of a father to his daughter, for the good of their children. Marriage took place, witnessed by both parents Fulanah and friends.
At first the couple looked happy. With a thousand dreams and delusion. Fulanah want to establish an Islamic household with a husband who will always guide her and will always be together beside him.
The days continue to run a month-two months ..., they began to find their weaknesses, and start the feeling disappointed in their hearts, hopes and ideals do not match reality. The wife is less aware of the things he had to do, for example when the husband came home from outside the home; she look sober, even impressed wrinkled and unattractive. Maybe she thought her husband a good man who does not need to look at women who look beautiful and attractive. This is just one example and there are many more things that make my husband disappointed. The husband who had never tasted delicious studying, to return majlis busy in science. For him to sit with semajlis friends science more exciting than sitting with my wife that "saturate".
Still less Fulanah science diennya, judging that her husband had abandoned her. Fulanah feel depressed seeing her husband's behavior so. Not sure what to do. He did not have provisions to deal with the science of marriage. Marital conflict ensued. It turned out that conflicts with her parents who had, it felt lighter than the current conflict. If it's like this .... what he wants to do? Divorce ... and returned to their parents? .... wal'iyadzubillah, it's not easy!
Indeed the case in the more we find among Muslims and Muslim women who, without thought and without any preparation in the steps toward marriage. There are even households that problem even worse consequences of marriage without dien based on science, practice and faith. For example there is disobedience which occurs in the household; husband's affair, or vice versa, which makes household became worse mess. Marriage is said to have happiness and peace and to realize the ideals of the beautiful and noble, became vice versa. Finally, families and children who will be the victim of carelessness because of the rush.
It is to get vegas family as aspired every Muslim and Muslim, is not as easy as imagined. It turned out that understanding the science of sufficient dien each party plays an important role to achieve these goals, given the many domestic problems that will arise. Like how to fulfill the rights and obligations of husband and wife, what their duties and how to educate children. How can we prepare if not earlier? This is one lesson for every diwajibkannya Muslims to seek knowledge.
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