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a Science in Marriage

Marriage is something that nature ... .. coveted by every normal person, whether male or female who has baligh. And is prescribed by Islam, as a practice the Sunnah of the implement.

Subhaanahu Allah wa Ta'ala created man with a sense of mutual interest to the opposite sex and need each other, so that by the mutual love and love to achieve quiet and offspring in her life. Even marriage is a series of worship to Allah Ta'ala wa Subhaanahu in which there are many virtues and great rewards are achieved by the couple.

Even so, many we find on our brothers and saudarai misjudged tealah a marriage, even among those sekalipun.Langkah do not understand science-based start doing weddings because they want to escape from a problem that was experienced. For example the following cases:

Fulanah is a Muslim, who has studied the science of religion. He has quite severe conflicts with their parents, perhaps with a little knowledge he could in bermuamalah less with their parents, or perhaps because of how fahamnya less experience than Birrul-walidain (Berbakti to both parents-ed). The problem is he will paired with a choice man who thinks his parents disagree about manhaj (understanding). The reason for this is commendable in Islam, but how to approach and how to refuse to parents who mungkinkurang good. Keua urged parents to continue so that he receives appropriate man for her daughter's life partner. Fulanah very confused, let alone her parents began to threaten with a variety of threats. Confusion, he suggested to one of her girlfriends who have married sepengajian. Her friend was also spontaneously suggested that she married a friend of her husband. Fulanah gladly accept the proposal, a million beautiful ... hope. imagine! He will be free from the problems at hand and can become someone's wife to him later ... sefaham can Koran together, can practice the same science. The man who finally felt sorry dimaksudpun after hearing stories about keistiqomahan Fulanah. He thought that more Fulanah need help, though his goal is at stake. Actually he was not ready for marriage, because it was studying new dien even begin to feel delicious studied.

Short story with the permission of Allah finally they get married. Parents who had insisted, allow the sincerity of a father to his daughter, for the good of their children. Marriage took place, witnessed by both parents Fulanah and friends.

At first the couple looked happy. With a thousand dreams and delusion. Fulanah want to establish an Islamic household with a husband who will always guide her and will always be together beside him.

The days continue to run a month-two months ..., they began to find their weaknesses, and start the feeling disappointed in their hearts, hopes and ideals do not match reality. The wife is less aware of the things he had to do, for example when the husband came home from outside the home; she look sober, even impressed wrinkled and unattractive. Maybe she thought her husband a good man who does not need to look at women who look beautiful and attractive. This is just one example and there are many more things that make my husband disappointed. The husband who had never tasted delicious studying, to return majlis busy in science. For him to sit with semajlis friends science more exciting than sitting with my wife that "saturate".

Still less Fulanah science diennya, judging that her husband had abandoned her. Fulanah feel depressed seeing her husband's behavior so. Not sure what to do. He did not have provisions to deal with the science of marriage. Marital conflict ensued. It turned out that conflicts with her parents who had, it felt lighter than the current conflict. If it's like this .... what he wants to do? Divorce ... and returned to their parents? .... wal'iyadzubillah, it's not easy!

Indeed the case in the more we find among Muslims and Muslim women who, without thought and without any preparation in the steps toward marriage. There are even households that problem even worse consequences of marriage without dien based on science, practice and faith. For example there is disobedience which occurs in the household; husband's affair, or vice versa, which makes household became worse mess. Marriage is said to have happiness and peace and to realize the ideals of the beautiful and noble, became vice versa. Finally, families and children who will be the victim of carelessness because of the rush.

It is to get vegas family as aspired every Muslim and Muslim, is not as easy as imagined. It turned out that understanding the science of sufficient dien each party plays an important role to achieve these goals, given the many domestic problems that will arise. Like how to fulfill the rights and obligations of husband and wife, what their duties and how to educate children. How can we prepare if not earlier? This is one lesson for every diwajibkannya Muslims to seek knowledge.

MEET THE CONDITIONS NIKAH

Imam Bukhari narrated from '' Uqbah ibn 'Amir, he said that the Messenger of Allaah' alaihi wasallam said, "the most appropriate terms you meet is what makes the pubic (wife) made lawful unto you."
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen was asked, "Some guardian menyaratkan of his daughter's husband to his wife to continue their studies, and work after graduation at the time of the ceremony. Does this requirement are allowed? Does the law if he does not do it after the wedding? "



He said:

Conditions brought against the husband, if not forbidden by Syar'i, and he's willing to these terms, then it becomes imperative upon it. That is, he must do, based on the word of the Prophet alaihi wasallam, "Verily the most appropriate conditions you meet is what makes the pubic (wife) made lawful unto you."

But it was not fitting for his wife and family as menyaratkan in question. Even fitting that they make the case as an agreement between husband and wife after marriage.

As it is known that the husbands married to women to serve as a wife who educate their children is to improve the situation, not a career woman who is not seen in some time. Facilitated in the case of this kind, and not one bit of menyaratkan it is better and more important.

Terms of Covenant Not Permitted In

Menyelisihi conditions 1.Semua Qur'aan is canceled.

Imam Bukhari narrated from Aisha, he said that the Messenger of Allaah 'alaihi wasallam said, "Why do people give conditions that are not there in the Qur'aan. A condition that is not in Kitabulah, then it's off even a hundred conditions. Conditions more true God, and God is stronger terms. "(Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Daud, al-Nisaa'i, Ibn Majah, etc..)

2.Wanita should not ask that divorced wives to a man's marrying her.

The Messenger of Allaah 'alaihi wasallam said, "It is not lawful for a woman to ask suadara daughter (honey) is divorced so that he can replace his position. Because he only get what is determined for him. "(Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim).

TERMS AQAD NIKAH

We mentioned at the beginning of chapter one about the meaning of marriage and its legal and we will mention in this chapter syar'i conditions that must be met to marry well syahnya laws syar'i arising from it. Indeed it aqad married an expression of 'consent' and 'qobul', which started aqad called 'al-Mujib' and the other party is called 'Cain'. And maybe a 'final offer' of a man or his representative, and could be from her or his representative, as well as 'qobul'.
And the shohih to lafadh 'aqad marriage' is not no mistake it is: ( 'zawwajtuka ...' (I kawinkan you), or (....` ankahtuka ... '(I marry you ... ). When a woman says "Kukawinkan me ...." or his representative said" Kukawinkan ...", then you have been realized 'final offer of one side. If on the other side has to say: (' Qobiltu '(I accept)) , it has happened 'aqad marriage', when you've fulfilled the terms. Among others:

1. As mentioned qobul consent 'maharnya', either in cash or debt. And other conditions mentioned, if any, such as power or protection dijadikannya in the hands of his wife so he could determine when the divorce, or until a certain time limit with the divorce so that ba'in (forever).

2. And most important requirement that marriage is the presence of two independent witnesses, baligh, understanding, Muslims, for Muslim and Moslem marriages, who heard what aqad marriage, and the schools of that was married and Shah aqad if two witnesses are from relatives of husband and wife, as father or brother or son.

B. LAWS AQAD NIKAH
Indeed aqad bond of marriage is solid and strong, as each husband and wife are bound by ties with truth-haqnya, and be a responsible husband to his wife by keeping some of the terms that are not stated here. And the most important laws of this bond are:

Permanent marriage between two men of thought and the second marriage laws, and halal have fun with each other, and be forbidden from his wife's mother, and still heir of both parties (husband and wife).

Obligatory for the husband to marry aqad simply:

1. Giving 'dowry' both in cash and debt
2. Provide with all that stuff, namely: food,
clothing, shelter, etc., to women who marry.

What to do husband over his wife:

1. Assigned to the husband and wife have to educate the good way, because the husband is the leader of his wife.
2. The wife must obey him in things that Mubah and maintain honor and duty to stay at home and not out of his house except with the permission of her husband or because of an emergency.
3. For wives should not prevent the husband the right to have fun with it except for udzur like menstruation.

C. MARRIED TO EXCEPT AND MUSLIMAH MUSLIMIN
We want to explain the law shar 'i about Muslim women married to non-Muslim men and vice versa, because marriage is associated with the conditions and laws. The explanation is as follows:

Muslim Marriage with non-Muslim man

Syar'i already known that it is not permissible for a Muslim to marry non-Muslim men absolutely any religion and belief, including People of the Book. If this happens then the marriage is not valid or false. And does not result in a hukumpun of marriage laws, so do not set nasab child to his father, and do not inherit each other after the death of one of them. This was as in the word of Allah, the Exalted:
[ "And do not marry idolaters (with the women believers) until they believe. Verily the Believers slave is better than the polytheists, even though she allures you."] AI-Baqarah: 221

And most important of these issues we would like to remind the Muslims especially the saints and the women in order to really consider in choosing a husband for not constitute an important thing to be married women with any person, without aqidahnya examine, patterns of thought, and without know whether he is a believer or mulhid, Muslims or People of the Book, pagan or Buddhist.

Lo is the bond of matrimony is a bond barokah hearts and minds, before the bond body and lust. So a Muslim needs to the man who could walk with him, not contradictory between aqidah and religion, so as not to hinder the husband and wife to fulfill his religious obligations. And we see how the husband of heretic, infidel, and his wife dressed mulhid prohibit the closing shame and forced his wife to bare ko! Am a general pool, to face! Angi they perform prayers, fasting, and all religious orders, took a drink khomr, and led to the atrocities. Is that such a good husband?

Is not it better for a woman to not have a husband in her life than marry the man who disbelieve, hard heart like this? Who do not understand the essence of marriage unless it is only lust. Does not the woman asked him why I married a man like this? If he was married because kegantengannya, high position, it is possible for him to get a sholeh Muslim men who have sfat such properties as well. If he already loved her, crazy about him and then to throw the truth then this is a bad girl who leaves his religion and follow syahwatnya.

Marriage Muslim man with a Non-Muslim Women

It is known that the Muslim man may not marry non-Muslim woman unless the People of the Book (Jews and Christians), but that marriage unlawful. Should not marry women mulhid, Buddhist, Hindu, pagan or an apostate from Islam. We nasehatkan also for men to choose a good wife is the true Muslim who loves Allah and His Messenger. Not like the woman who grew up in the environment but have fikrah Muslims who hate and hostile to Islam. Hate to cover genitals (clothed in shar'i), then he is not Muslim. Similarly, women who do not love Allah and His messenger and religious laws so he is not Muslim. Although he was born of Muslim parents.

O Muslim men ..., choose a wife-wives in the best choice and you will not regret it because nothing to regret. And have we mentioned about women marrying bolehnya People of the Book syar'i law, but this needs explanation, as follows:
Those women marrying Muslim People of the Book is makruh under any circumstances. Because it was a better mukminah. And shari'ah mernbolehkan not marry People of the Book except with the requirements, if conditions are not met then it should not even be unlawful.
Among those conditions are:

1. Women's really People of the Book of deeds and the reality. The point is really a Jew or Nashara aqidah (the original). If the woman had separated from Judaism and became kenasroniannya then mulhid (Buddhist, Hindu) is not allowed to marry. This is a very important requirement for the Moslems who be! Teaching in the eastern and western countries who want to get married there. Then obliged him to make sure state women's People of the Book with his actions, so that valid marriage even though it was hateful or makruh.

2. Let the man was a true Muslim, not just Islamic identity card, so as not to give his wife a chance to religion and morality affect children. And no one is able to pretend not to know about the bad effect upon our young people, who live their heathen land he married the women of the country. So how many "Muslims syahwatnya lost in there and fell into such a society that forgot their religion. How many Muslims who lost their authority over their children is caused by bad laws made by their wives. Then become his children when they were infidels Muslim descent. If the condition was like this, then marry pagan women, the law becomes unlawful. Because the damages caused. In summary the shari'ah is not recommended to marry a non Muslim. Even marrying a Muslim untutk advocated in all circumstances. Because she was better meet the rights of husbands and better care for their children as the word of Allah, the Exalted:
( "And do not marry women idolaters, until they believe. Truly believing slave women more than women balk musrik, although he drew attention ') AI-Baqarah: 221

Though not considered mahram

Keogahan caused explore science in the Islamic religion, then we encounter a lot of wrong assumptions in some mahrom. Automatic fatal, the people who really are not mahrom considered mahromnya. It is ironic indeed, but so true. Therefore, improvement is needed immediately.

Here are some people who considered it mahrom:

Father And Son Lift.

This is based on the word of God: "And God does not make foster children as child birth." [Al-Ahzab: 4]

Cousin (Son Uncle / Aunt).

This is based on the word of God after mentioning the kinds of people are forbidden to marry: "And lawful to you other than that case. [An-Nisa ': 24]

Explaining the verse, Shaykh Abdur Rohman Nasir As-Sa'di said: "It was like a uncle / aunt (the father) and child's uncle / aunt (the mother)". [See pp Taisir Karimir Rohman 138-139]

Brother-in-law.

This is based on the following hadith: "Beware of you from entry to the women, said a person from Anshor:" O Messenger of Allah what do you think if he is al-Hamwu (relative of the husband)? The Prophet said: "Al-Hamwu is a death". [HR Bukhori; 5232, Muslim 2172]

Baghowi Imam said: "What is meant in this hadith is the sister's husband (brother in law) because he did not include mahrom for the wife. And if that is the in-laws when he included mahrom, then how do you think of people who are not mahrom?" He continued: "That is, beware of the brother-in-law as you are aware of death".

Mahrom Titipan.

The habit is often the case, if there is a woman wants to travel far as leaving the pilgrimage, he picked up a man 'acting' as a temporary mahrom. This is a very big disaster. Even Sheikh Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani Hajjatun assess the Prophet (p. 108); "This innovation is very cruel, because it is not there anymore vague hiyal (fraud) against the shariah. And a ladder disobedience".

Women With Mahromnya

After understanding the various mahrom, please note also a few things about the law regarding women with mahromnya are:

Can not Marry

Allah says:

"And marry not those women who have been your fathers married, except in times past. Verily deeds are very cruel and hateful of God and the worst way (which followed). Your brothers are male; children women from the brotherhood of women; mother who gave you suck your mother; sepersusuan sisters; wives, mothers (in law); the children of the wives of pemeliharaanmu wife whom you interfere, but if you do not interfere with your wife's (and already you're divorced), then you marry her innocence; (and forbidden to you) the wives child birth (law), and concentrate (in marriage) two women who are brothers, but that has happened in the past for Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful, [An-Nisa ':22-23]

Marriage Can Be Mayor

Guardian is a condition of my marriage, sebagaiman narrated by 'Aisha radliyallahu' anha bahwasannya Messenger of Allaah be upon wassallam said: "Anyone who married a woman without a guardian permission, then nikahnya false (not valid), then nikahnya falsehood, then nikahnya falsehood." [HSR Abu Daud 2083, see Irwaul Golil 6 / 243]

Also narrated from Abu Musa Al-Ash'ari said: The Messenger of Allaah wassallam alaih said: "Not valid marriage unless there is a guardian. [HSR Abu Daud 2085, see Irwaul Gholil 6 / 235]

Said Al-Tirmidhi: "The obliged by the Companions of the Prophet peace be upon wassallam of marriage guardian is a problem of this hadith, among them are Khothob Umar ibn Ali ibn Abi Tholib, Ibn Abbas, Abu Hurayrah and also besides them." [See Sunan Tirmidhi, 3 / 410 Tahqiq Baqi Muhammad Abul Fu'ad]

But not all right to be guardian mahrom marriage and vice versa is not all it should be the guardian of mahromnya. Examples are not the guardians of such mahrom boy's uncle (cousin brother), people who have memerdekakannya, Sulthon. The Mahrom which can not be a trustee as mushoharoh cause.

Can not Safar (Travel Far) Except With Mahromnya

Lots of hadith which prohibits women held except with mahromnya Safar, including:

From Abu Sa'eed al Khudri radi 'anhu said: Saying Rasulullahu peace alahi wassallam: "It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the last day of Safar to hold more than three days except with her father, son, husband, brother or other mahrom. " [Reported by Muslim, 1340]

Abdullah bin Amr bin Ash-radi 'anhuma of Rasulullahu peace be upon him wassallam said: "Do not be a Muslim woman to travel for two days except with her husband or mahromnya."[Reported by Ibn Khuzaymah: 2522]

From Abu Hurayrah bersabsa Rasulullahi peace be upon him wassallam: "It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to conduct day and night Safar mahromnya not together." [HR Bukhori: 1088, Muslim 1339]

From some of this hadith, we know that is forbidden for a Muslim woman to hold together unless mahromnya Safar, Safar was a good time or a moment. The other day limitation contained in the above hadith can not be understood as a minimum.

Said Sheikh Salim Al-Hilali: "The scholars 'opinion that the restriction on the number above hadith does not limit dimaksudkna to a minimum. Because there is a history which is generally prohibited except with women mahromnya Safar, both old and for a while, such as Ibn Abbas radi history' anhuma he said: I heard Rasulullahi peace be upon him wassallam said:

"Do not be a man berkholwat (alone) with a woman except with mahromnya, nor Safar with women except with mahromnya, then a man stood up and said:" O Messenger of Allah, my wife actually went hajj when I participated in a war. The Messenger replied: "Go for the haj with your wife." [HR Bukhori: 3006.523, 1341 Muslims, See Mawsuat Sharia Al Manahi Ash 2 / 102]

Said Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar, vol: "Most scholars' larangn enforce this for all Safar because pembatasn contained in these hadiths very different." [See Fath Bari 4 / 75]

Shaykh Al-Fauzan sholeh asked about the legal Hafidzuhullah Safar woman with a domestic flight in the country without mahrom, whether it is allowed? Answer: "Not allowed for a woman held without mahrom Safar, both pewasat or car ride, because blessings Rasulullahi Allaah be upon him said:" It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the last day of Safar held day and night except with mahrom. "So Safar mahrom women without it should not even by means of rapid transportation, since the plane or the car might be too late, damaged, or has other things that require women to be together mahromnya can keep going when things are not desired . " [Al-Shaykh Fatwa Muntaqo min Fauzan Al Sholeh 5 / 387]

Can not Kholwat (The two-pair) Except with Mahromnya

Not Allowed To show jewelery Except Mahromnya

Can not shake hands with the exception of Mahromnya

Shake hands with women in this age has become a commonplace thing, but Rasullah peace be upon him very threatening hard wassallam perpetrators: From Ma'qil bin Yasar radhyallahu 'anhu:

Together with the Messenger of Allaah be upon wassallam: "If someone's head in with a needle puncture of the iron is better than touching a woman who is not lawful for him." (Thobroni history hasan hadeeth in al-Kabir Mu'jam 20/174/386 and Rauyani in Musnad: 1283 saw Ash Shohihah 1/447/226)

Shaykh Al-Albani said vol: "In this hadith there is a serious warning to the people who touched a woman who is not lawful for him, including the problem of shaking hands, because the handshake that includes touching." [Ash Shohihah 1 / 448]

And Rasulullahi peace be upon him wassalam never shake hands with women, even in critical situations such as membai'at and others.

From Umaimah bintih Ruqoiqoh radi 'anha: Rasulullahi said peace be upon him wassallam: "Actually I do not shake hands with women." [HR Malik 2 / 982, Nisaa'i 7 / 149, 1597 Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah 2874, ahmad 6 / 357, etc.]

From Aisha radi 'anha: "By Allah, his Messenger of Allaah be upon wassallam never touched a woman's hand at all even in membai'at. He did not memba'iat them except with mangatakan:" I ba'iat you. "[HR Bukhori: 4891]

Haraam involved shaking hands with a woman who is not generally apply mahromnya, both women were young or old, pretty or ugly, is also good handshake is direct contact with skin or cloth coated.

Shaykh Abdul Aziz ibn Baaz, vol ever asked about it, so he answered: No shaking hands with a woman who was not absolutely mahromnya, whether the woman was young or the elderly, both men shook hands tesebut young or old, as shaking hands can lead to defamation. Also do not distinguish whether this handshake is pembatasnya or not, because the generality of this theorem (the ban handshakes), also to prevent slander ". [Fatawa Islamiyah 3 / 76 developed Muahmmad bin Abdul Aziz Al Musnid]